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5 Ways to Feel Confident in the Fitting Room

Why is it, that just when we think we are feeling pretty confident about ourselves and our bodies, it all goes out the window when we step into a store’s dressing room? Those florescent lights highlighting every blemish and flaw. That annoying 20 something sales girl asking if you need another size. That woman next to you chatting on her cell phone about her latest gel manicure. And why does everything seem to be two sizes too small all of a sudden? What was supposed to be a relaxing shopping trip ends up being a living hell and you’re a prisoner in a 4×10 cell.

What is it about fitting rooms that scares us so much? Perhaps it has something to do with that fact that we are alone in a room – naked – with only those glaring lights and a mirror to keep us company. It’s the ideal place for all of our insecurities to breed. Or maybe it’s simply that we don’t know how to shop for our body types. We spend time selecting articles of clothing only to find them rejected on the fitting room floor.

With my many years as a Personal Shopper, I have seen my fair share of dressing room meltdowns and successes. I have included a list of my five tried and true ways to banish those self destructive thoughts and go into (and come out of) any dressing room with confidence.

1. Think positive. Ok, ok. I know what you’re thinking. I really hope she’s not going to tell me to chant or say hundreds of affirmations to myself. Believe me, you’ve got the wrong girl. However, there is something to be said about this positive thinking thing, especially when it comes to your body image. Your brain works much like a computer and can actually be trained to hold new information. It has been said that “whatever the mind expects, it finds”. When you catch yourself thinking negative or unfair thoughts about your body or size, correct yourself with a positive truth. This truth can be something simple such as “my body is healthy and strong” to something a little more clever like, “I have a fabulous rear-end”.

2. Make like a Girl Scout and utilize The Buddy System. You don’t have time to feel bad about yourself when you are on a girls shopping trip. You’re too busy swapping dresses and laughing about the latest issue of People magazine to worry about your cellulite. You also get the benefit of a truly honest opinion of how you look. A (true) friend will always tell you the truth, but will never put you down. They also may coax you into trying things that you never may have by yourself.

3. Remember that it’s just a number. You may be convinced that you’re a size 6 and refuse to try on anything else. While this may seem like a good way to keep you in the gym, it’s no way to shop. Different clothing brands have different cuts and fit everyone in a different way. One companies’ size 6 is another companies’ size 2. That’s why you simply cannot get hung up on a number. Try on multiple sizes of the same garment until you find the one that fits you. Sometimes that will mean going up a size, while other times you may go down a size.

4. Cheat the system. This next tip is going to annoy all of my dear friends in the retail world, but I think it must be said. Always look at the return policy of your favorite stores so that you can try the clothing in the comfort of your own home. Most stores offer a 30 day return/exchange policy as long as the pieces have not been worn. This means you skip the hassle of the obnoxious sales girl and harsh lighting altogether. You can also easily see what will work with what you already own. Please use this tip wisely and never wear the clothes before returning them. That’s just tacky.

5. Hire a pro. This is what I do for a living. I shop. I help women just like you navigate the fitting room madness and guide them to the right options. I have been on many a shopping trip with clients who are convinced they are doomed to never finding a pair of jeans that fit or to wearing black for the rest of their lives. I not only serve as a new set of eyes, but also offer new ideas that will bring their wardrobes to life. I can also bring options to your home and save youthe time of even going to the mall. Now that’s what I call shopping.

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Chic Gift Ideas: Mother’s Day

My dad and I were just chatting about how Mother’s Day really seemed to creep us on us this year. We both looked at each other in disbelief thinking it must be later in the month. I mean wasn’t it on the 20th . . . or something last year? After we got over the fact that our calenders was probably right and we had simply lost track of time, the next thought that popped into our heads was what we should get her. This is where I stop going into detail on what we ended up getting her (sorry mom) and start giving you ideas on what to get your mom/wife/sister/friend/and or anyone you know who happens to be a mother.

Mom's Day Gift Ideas

Idea #1: Statement Jewelry – A necklace or a pair of earrings may seem like a given for Mother’s Day, but this year, take it to the next level with a statement piece that will last for years to come. This can include anything from a bold beaded necklace to staked bangles. This way she can dress up any top or simple sheath dress.

Idea #2: Electronics She’ll Actually Use – No, it’s not just your dad who wants the cool gadgets. Grant the wishes of any tech-obsessed mom in your life by giving her an easy to use device that will make her look smart and chic. Both the Kindle and the iPad are great options and will make her feel very tech-savvy and ahead of the game.

Idea #3: Exotic Flowers – My mom has never been a flower person, but I know plenty of mother’s would love to revive a beautiful bouquet of exotic flowers this year. One of my all time favorite gift ideas is a vase of colorful or white Orchids. Not only are they stunning to look at, but they are super low maintenance. Make sure that the vase is as equally as pretty as the flowers that fill it. This way it can be used over and over again.

Idea #4 At Home Spa Kits – Who doesn’t love a trip a fancy spa? But for those of us that can’t afford to send our mom’s off to a day of hot-stone massages mud baths, at-home spa kits are just the thing. You can even customize your own personal gift sets by choosing some of your favorite bath and beauty products and displaying them in a fancy basket.

Idea # 5: A  Fun Fragrance  Date-  It can be a bit tricky to buy any woman a perfume if you don’t know what scents she prefers. That’s why I recommend a “Fragrance Date”. Take your mom (or whom ever else you are shopping for) to her favorite department store and shop for a new perfume or body lotion that she’s never tried before. This is a fun and creative way for the two of you to bond and for her to try something new.

Need help finding that perfect gift for a Mother in your life? I would love to help you shop for anyone on your list! Click here for more info!

“How Can I Wear It?”: Wide-Leg Jeans

The days of the skinny jean may be numbered. It’s arch enemy, the wide-legger, is taking center stage in a major way this spring/summer. The wide-leg jean is not only a fashion statement, but is also much more forgiving than it’s skin-tight counterpart. They have an effortless 1970’s feel, which look so fresh and new in the 21st century. Wide-leggers are also available in many different washes and cuts to satisfy any fashion plate’s appetite.

Luckily, you don’t have to be a size 0 and 6’1 to enjoy the look of a wide-leg jean. Like most denim, wide-leg jeans often come pretty long to maintain a certain look. It is essential to find a jean that fits great in the waist and the leg, as you can always hem the length. Wide-leggers go beyond the flair for a more dramatic statement, so if you’re on the petite side you’ll want to find a fits that sit low on the waist as to not overwhelm your frame. If you’re a bit more tall, you can venture to pull off the high-waisted wide-leg jean. This is a dramatic statement and looks perfect with a white tee tucked in.

Proportion is also an important element here. You always want to balance a voluminous bottom with a fitted top. January Jones loves to pair her wide-leg denim with a fitted leather jacket and 0ver-sized shades. Katie Holms prefers a more casual vibe with a simple simple tee shirt and belt. Complete your wide-legger look with chunky wedges and a floppy hat for an ideal “haute hippie”style.

Some of my favorite fits:

1. The Madewell Widelegger in the “Explorer” Wash

2. J Brand “Bette in Wonderama” Wide Leg Jean

3. GAP High Rise Flare Jeans

4. 7 For All Mankind Bell Bottom “Super Flare” in Clean White

5. Goldsign “Sisi” Platform Flare Jeans

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Ask Sophie Mae: How can I feel comfortable shopping for bathing suits?

Most women liken the process of bathing suit shopping to getting a root canal – long and painful. However, unless you plan on hiding under a rock all summer, this dreaded shopping experience  is a necessary evil. It seems that no matter how we really look, we always play the comparison game in our heads and insist on finding a swimsuit that makes us look like Heidi Klum on a the cover of Sports Illustrated. This mindset must be banished if we are ever to find an option that actually looks great on us.

Lucky for us, it’s 2011 and just as there has been many advancements in technology, the bathing suit industry has also stepped up their game. There are now push-up bra bikinis and high-waited bottoms for a flattering fit on any body type.  As with any article of clothing, it’s all about shopping for your unique shape. Here is a rundown on what type of suits to look for this summer.

Bathing Suits

Athletic: This is a similar body type to Cameron Diaz (you lucky girl!), but the challenge lies in looking feminine in a bathing suit. Look for girly details like floral prints or ruffle accents. I also love a plunging neckline for a feminine feel.

Curvy: I believe that curves should be celebrated, not hidden! Think about all of those beautiful pictures of Marilyn Monroe posing in her bathing suit on the beach. She was never afraid to show her womanly bod and neither should you! Your best bathing suit will mostly likely be a sexy one-piece in a bright color and 1950’s silhouette.

Petite: Show off your sassy personality in a classic triangle bikini. The simpler the better for my petite flowers out there. Show off your midriff to elongate the body. Avoid loud prints and stick with solid colors as to not overwhelm your small frame.

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What to Wear: Coachella

I was recently helping a client of mine put together looks for her upcoming trip to Coachella . Tribal prints? Check. Red hot pants? Yep. Bikinis? Lots. So maybe camping out for three days Woodstock style doesn’t really float your boat. But that doesn’t mean you can’t soak up some Coachella fashion vibes on the weekends.

Choachella

 

 

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Photo Credit: fashiongonerougue

Midnight Madness Caption Contest!

Hurry! Calling all Sophie Mae Stylesetters…Do you love Lucky Magazine and amazing deals on your favorite designers? Nah. Didn’t think so.

But in case you change your mind, log onto Fashion Trends Daily (www.fashiontrendsdaily.com) for an exclusive offer to the Lucky Shops LA event this weekend. Click on the Facebook link to enter the Fashion Trends Daily contest for a chance to win a ticket to the Lucky Shops LA invite-only VIP party this Thursday night, April 7, in L.A

Here are the rules: Post a clever, clean (not mean) caption to the photo we posted of one of this year’s hottest hair trends, and Fashion Trends Daily will choose two lucky winners. You’ve got until 10 pm tonight!! We will announce our two winners on Facebook at Midnight Thursday. Good luck!

Don’t worry if you don’t win! You can still get tickets to the event, and an exclusive 10 percent off when you enter promo code TRENDS on https://www.luckyshopstickets.com/

What’s In: Mix + Match

Though the days may be a bit deary at the moment, fashion won’t wait for the sun to start shinning to begin it’s love affair with spring. Bold colors and mix-matched patterns are beginning to make their debut in the magazines and on the streets. What’s not to love about polka-dot platforms  and a silk print dress in bright yellow? This editorial from Elle Turkey displays the feeling of spring perfectly. The art of print mixing can be a bit tricky for a novice, but once mastered, does wonders for one’s creativity.

Don’t shy away from color. This is the time to retire black and employ every piece of clothing that screams “bring on the heat”! Everything you wear should make a statement, from the fire engine red on your perfectly polished nails to the bumble bee yellow on your Prada heels.

Don’t be scared to miss-match prints. The days of matching your belt to your shoes are over. Be daring in your pattern choices by mixing stripes with a floral print or zebra with brocade. Different textures and shapes allow for some fun in your wardrobe. When combining different prints, be sure that the shapes are always flattering to your body. You don’t want to look like you wrapped a Pollock painting around your body!

Finally, choose accessories that compliment your colorful look. Try bold shoes in fun textures and handbags in interesting shapes. While you may be hesitant to try color everywhere, you can always show your creative side with amazing accessories.

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Photo Credits: Elle Turkey

What’s In: Tie Me Up

One of my favorite parts of my job is discovering up-and-coming designers that are making their mark on the fashion world. Madelyn Somers is the 22- year old the creative genius behind TYCOON neckwear. She creates one-of-a-kind bow ties for women from vintage men’s neckties. Not only are her designs charming and chic, but they also support a great cause. With every purchase, Madelyn donates 2% of the proceeds to Women for Women International, a organization working to help women in war-torn regions transform their lives. Madelyn says, “My mission is to inspire women to be self-sufficient entrepreneurs.” Now that’s what I call a fashionable cause.

Like what you see? For more info visit TYCOON NECKWEAR.com

In The Red

My favorite Oscar moments had little to do with who won Best Actress or which film stole Best Picture, but rather what the celebs wore while walking the red carpet. It was surprising to see the absence of color that was so present on previous red carpets this year. Most starts opted for the classic muted hues like silver, cream or pearly white. However, risk takers like Sandra Bullock and Jennifer Hudson rocked structured gowns in red. It just gos to show that you can always expect the unexpected at the Oscars.

Here are some of my favorite looks of the night and why I chose them.

Michelle Williams looks stunning in this body-skimming Chanel dress. She channels  a blond Audrey Hepburn with her pixie cut, simple makeup and classic gown. Overall, a perfect look.

Amy Adams has been a red carpet favorite of mine for years. This year was no exception when she showed up in this sparkling navy L’Wren Scott dress. The color complimented her ivory skin and fiery red hair perfectly. I wasn’t so crazy about the Cartier jewels with the neckline, but hey, you can’t win every time.

Hailee Steinfeld may have been the youngest nominee of the night, but don’t underestimate her style sense. She was looked every bit of the up-and-coming starlet in her custom Marchesa gown. Everything from her silver headband to her champagne peep-toes, Hailee played a rising style star.

Cate Blanchett won best dressed of the night in my book. Cate was the perfect fashion plate in a lilac Givenchy. The color was spot on and the architecture was unlike anything else we saw on the red carpet. This look was a work of art and she owned every bit of it.

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Photo Credits: style.com

Haute Topic: The Final Look

And Best Dressed for an Oscar after-party goes to . . .

So here it is, my final look! I choose this dress for it’s unique details and Old Hollywood feel. The color is bold and makes the dress feel a bit more modern. The dress is a statement on it’s own, so I kept the accessories simple. I’m loving the navy blue clutch (a great alternative to black) and the jewelery adds a bit of sparkle. I am so excited to rock my look at the Oscar after-parties!

Dress from the onQueStyle in Corona del Mar, CA.

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